When You are Erased
We erase mistakes. We delete irrelevant material. We edit out unimportant points.
But have you ever been erased by someone?
Category Archives: Be Brave, Be Balanced
A Twist on the Good Samaritan
There was once a Christian woman who got married. Shortly after her wedding day, she was attacked by her husband. He took her dignity and reputation, shamed her, blamed her, treated her like his property, and left her half-dead, alone in her home.
Did You Hear? Men Get to Be Heads Over Women FOREVER According to the Counsel on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
I wish I was joking, but I’m not. “According to the ESS folk at the CBMW (the headquarters of the hierarchical complementarian camp), wives will continue to submit to their husbands in heaven/the consummate kingdom/eternity. If it comes out of pre-Curse Genesis, then it must continue into post-Curse eternity, so it seems. This is more […]
What Do Women Want? To Rule or to Be Cherished?
Yesterday I brought up the modern-day theological thinking in Reformed circles regarding divorce along with the idea that this way of viewing divorce was very likely fabricated by people with an agenda. Today I want to draw your attention to another teaching popularized in the last forty years that has done just as much damage […]
The “God Hates Divorce” Lie
The whole “God Hates Divorce” mantra is just that, a modern day catch phrase often used to keep women stuck in destructive marriages.
Conquer Support Group is Taking Applicants This Week!
Heads up! If you are looking for more intense support, I highly recommend Leslie Vernick’s Conquer support group. For only $27 per month (which I think is a bargain when you consider how much private counseling costs – and this can be just as effective) you get access to a library of videos on all kinds of subjects pertaining to abuse survivors. You’ll also get to be part of an amazing community of women, like yourself, on a private Facebook page. I think this was my favorite part about Conquer. I didn’t feel alone. I had a place to share my raw feelings without being ignored and dismissed. People prayed for me, and I prayed for them.
Finally, you’ll be a part of two group phone calls per month where you can ask questions and hear Leslie’s answers. If you can swing $27 per month, it will be money well spent in your recovery and healing.
Conquer enrollment only takes place twice a year, so hop on board from now until April 23 at midnight.
This One’s About Anger
Anger provides the energy necessary to fight for life sometimes. It can be the fuel that inspires courage and initiative to right wrongs, stand up for the weak, and defend the helpless.
Big Change Happens One Small Step at a Time
Before I was a shadow of me. A version of me I thought I had to be to fit into the circles I ran in. Now I’m just me, I don’t have a circle anymore, and if someone doesn’t like it, they can lump it. I’m good with God, and that’s my peace.
Three Things to Put in Writing (and Three Reasons Why)
If you are tangled up in a confusing relationship, one effective strategy to gain a solid footing (and eventually a voice) is to write things down. It doesn’t matter if you are a good writer or not. Your purpose isn’t to win a Pulitzer prize. Here are three important things you can record on paper (or on your computer) that will be tremendously helpful to you over time.
Rushing Reconciliation is Rarely Rewarding
Can you have a healthy relationship where there is lying, covering up, pretending, overlooking, and ignoring? Does that foster intimacy? Of course not. Healthy relationships are grown in the soil of vulnerability and safety. When two people are open and honest, they can get close and experience authentic acceptance and love. Anything less is dysfunctional in some way.